So I'm 20 weeks now. We go in for the ultrasound on Monday, and to be honest I'm more anxious than excited. I know I shouldn't compare myself with others, but it just seems that the other girls in my ward - who are not quite as far along in their pregnancy as I am - feel the movements of their babies a lot more than I do. In fact, I don't know if I really even feel it. At times I feel and I think, "That must be the baby," but within a few minutes I'm already doubting it. One girl who is only 19 weeks describes her baby's movements as "pow! pow! pow!" like he's punching and kicking her all over. Then she turns to me and asks, "How about you?" Uh...? Maybe I feel a slight muscle spasm every now and then? However, the sensations I have felt in my stomach have also been felt in my legs and arms, and I'm pretty sure the baby isn't there, so I have serious doubts if it is the baby's movements I feel rippling in my abdomen or just the same quirky muscle thing that I feel in other areas of my body.
Also, I just don't feel like I'm big enough. One of the girls in our Ward who is 19 weeks says she hasn't been able to fit into her bathing suit for weeks. A bathing suit! A bathing suit is sooo stretchy, and yet I'm still wearing my normal jeans. Granted I do sag them as low as possible necessitating the wearing of long shirts and being extra careful when I bend over. But still.... So even if I go in on Monday and the baby is vital (my first fear), I worry that the doctor will tell me the baby isn't developing normal, or something similar. Are these instincts I'm having or just the workings of a frenzied mind?
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Abby, you're completely normal! I didn't feel Thomas' movements regularly (if at all) until after the 20-week ultrasound.
Also, there were a couple pair of my regular pants that I wore the entire pregnancy. They were pants that could be worn lower and also had a little stretch in them. But I was very happy to have them because I hate maternity pants--they just never seemed to stay where they needed to stay. Anyway, it might still be awhile before you even need real maternity clothes. I think it was my last trimester that my regular clothes became way too snug.
Good luck with the ultrasound! I'm excited to hear your gender news.
I dont want to tell you your instincts are wrong. Yet I feel your feelings of anxiety are very normal. Isaac was a mover and kicker. So I felt him early on. But Isabella wasnt more then a twitch even after 20 weeks. And consider your self lucky that you can still fit into your close. At 20 weeks with both kids I couldn't fit into any of my normal pants!
I felt Lydia for the first time at 20 weeks. My doctor said that when women say they feel the baby much earlier than that, it is gas. I thought I felt this baby at 10 weeks a lot. Almost like he was already kicking me. But it wasn't the baby. The baby is too small for you to feel him at that point. Though it really feels like it could be a baby.
It's hard not to worry, but I didn't feel anything with Kate until 21 weeks. It's completely normal for first time moms. Also, count yourself lucky that you are small. I was small with both my pregnancies, they both were fine, and it meant that I fit back into my regular jeans just a couple days out of the hospital. A big pregnant lady doesn't necessarily equal a healthy baby!
Hi Abby! Congrats on your pregnancy! I wouldn't worry about not being 'big' by 20 weeks. I'm 29 weeks 1 day and just started wearing maternity clothes a few days ago! When I tell people I'm pregnant - most of them laugh and don't believe me (especially when I tell them how far along I am). Every woman is different. Count yourself lucky that you're not into maternity clothes yet because they are awful!! In regard to being unsure if you are feeling the baby - my best friend didn't feel her little girl until 25 weeks! Don't worry - I'm sure everything is perfect. :)
Don't worry Abby! Chloe kicked a lot but I didn't really feel her until like week 22. It will come! I am so excited for you guys to find out! Such a fun time! The ultrasound was one of the coolest experiences ever!
Maybe your baby is just being really quiet and calm because he/she knows that when it comes out its not going to STOP moving or crying so it's actually doing you a favor now. Wow what a great baby you have!
Here's what it is...I am having a husky and active boy who doesn't know how to stay still!!! I felt the same anxious feelings before my ultrasound and thats normal. I am so glad our kids will be so close in age and we will have little buddies (along with lynette and sam).
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